December is usually a time of reflection and planning for the new year with resolutions, goals, and plans for a better life. Goals are good to have. They help you strive for more. But…
What if you were enough?
What if you decided to take a year off? No goals. No struggle for fitting in, being better, or pushing yourself? I’m not suggesting a year of sloth and gluttony. Allow yourself to just live in the moment. If every act is an act of love for yourself and others you won’t need goals.
What if you decided not to diet but just to love your body enough to nourish it well? It would simplify your eating habits right? No more measuring, no more counting or eliminating, suffering. Using your intuition and a basic knowledge of nutrient density foods to make a choice to be kind to your body. Eat only what your body needs. Instead of eating mindlessly, enjoy the process and think about how this food came to your table.
What if you ran when you wanted to or walked when your spirit called you? Take a walk to wind down from work or with a loved one to spend quiet time together. Run because your soul needs to. What if you chose to do yoga in the quiet of the morning to reconnect your mind and spirit with your body? What if you didn’t make exercise work but a connection between your body and your soul? Try allowing yourself to move intuitively instead of forcing it. Breathe.
What if you stopped worrying about your hair? buying the latest expensive beauty product? wearing the latest fashion trend? Love your hair by taking care of it. Nourish it along with your body. Feed your body well, drink plenty of water for hydration and your body will praise you with a healthy glow. Use skin care in your kitchen of natural products from the earth and don’t worry about keeping up with marketing. Allow yourself to be beautiful on the inside. Let go of anger, self-destruction, and hate.
What if you decided not to criticize your neighbor, spouse, or coworker? What if you just loved them as they are with all their imperfections? Maybe they would return the favor. Suffering and bitterness are a choice. We only suffer if we choose to react and take things personally. What if you just didn’t do either? The first couple of times you try it, it’s awkward but then when you see how much suffering is caused by perspective and not fact you stop the hurt. Not reacting doesn’t make you a victim, it empowers you. Non-reaction is something that you do for yourself. It feels so good to let others just be. Silence is very powerful. Try it.
What if you decide to say no? What if you didn’t go to every party, game, meeting, or volunteering event? Could you spend time in silence? Can you tolerate yourself without the TV, phone, or noise? What if you plan more hikes in nature, spent quiet time with someone you love, or meditated and prayed more? What if you reconnect with your spirit instead of trying to escape yourself? If you don’t like yourself well enough to tolerate the silence maybe you should give yourself a break.
We are our toughest critics. Most of the time, what we do is never good enough. We always find something we want to change, to make “better”. We buy into the marketing schemes that pray upon our self-esteem and make us believe that we are never good enough and that we can never own enough stuff. Stop. To continue to beat yourself up over what society deems worthy is an endless journey of suffering. It is needless. Everyone has good in them. Sadly, we compare the outside of someone else with the inside of us. We base too much of our opinions and actions on perceptions. Rarely do we take the time to really know the facts. The fix for this is truly simple. Love one another, beginning with yourself. You are enough. You are perfect just as you are.
Love your body, mind, and soul and the care of each will come easily.